When I need a spiritual “tune up” I go back to basics. I up my meditation, go to more AA meetings and go to chapel more regularly.
I have over the last few years drifted away from what I used to do in terms of my recovery.
I took time out from AA to further my ideas into the neurobiology and neuromechanisms of addiction and I have now come up with theories of addiction which satisfy my understanding of addiction. I have done with that in many ways.
These theories of addiction can be found here please read as they may strike a chord with you too and hopefully contribute to your understanding of addictive behaviour.
But this research and time away from AA has had some cost or so may be the case. It depends on how one appraises this and how one appraises the role of mistakes in life, if this was a mistake even?
Are mistakes things to be learnt from, are mistakes also integral to learning a better way of doing things?
In these last few years only going to AA intermittently and nothing like as much as I used to, I have found I have increasingly been living in my head and less in my heart. I have found it difficult to moderate my research. I have become quite obsessive if not addicted to researching addiction, however ironic this may sound.
Now I have taken time out as I want to change course in my life. I have decided I want to work more closely with my fellow alcoholics, I want to use what I have researched along with what I have learnt in AA in a more practical therapeutic way for myself and for others.
To do so requires me getting more spiritually and emotionally fit.
Today I have meditated after waking and then went to chapel then followed by a AA meeting. I have just returned and after this will shop, cook tea, walk my dogs, do the clothes washing etc. All mundane compared to high flying research?
High flying research has it’s place but the spiritual programme I want to live has to come first and has to put others first.
I haven’t been doing that as much in reality as I should.
Throughout my research I have not been living in AA and visiting the world from there, I have been living in the world and barely giving AA any time. The reason I have done what I have in recovery and got what I got in recovery is solely down to AA.
AA does not need to be improved or updated. I do!
I went to this meeting today thinking I will be of help to others to be gobsmacked of how much help these other people are to me.
For an egomaniac self proclaimed genius this was such a humbling experience it was painful.
I have drifted off beam, gotten spiritually flabby.
All the shares I heard today where nuggets of genius on how to stay sober, they were living demonstrations of recovery, living demonstrations of living a spiritual life in a way I am not! It was like sitting around a table of spiritual gurus.
How could I have been so wrong about these people before?
You know why? Because I was too busy being so right about what I thought.
I need to put more work in to get more out of this spiritual way of life.
When I was last in AA in this area I would pronounce that meeting as a sick meeting or that meeting is not doing it properly or that is not AA, or why are they always talking about outside agencies like treatment centres etc…..a controlling madman was what I was looking back.
Today I was completely teachable.
Everyone who shared was a teacher, everyone is a teacher period. Everyone has something to say, something I can learn from. Everyone!
This is where I am at.
A bit tired, fragile and dealing with the bitter pill of swallowing my false pride and admitting I have been so wrong about so many things.
I really hate to admit it. But there you have it.
There is not a problem out there – it is usually a problem in here, in between my ears, in my head and heart.
Perhaps I needed to step out and then go back?
Who knows? All I know is that I now have a different attitude to when I was last there.
The worse thing which is also the best thing is that after all this research I can really state that I can’t be sure I know anything much.
And that is definitely progress!