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Continue reading →: Prevention – Is addiction inevitable?
Just added another page…called “Prevention” This blogsite suggests that addiction is the consequence, most often, of maltreatment in childhood. The “hole in the soul” is often the result of poor attachment to caregivers in early childhood, or the effect of abuse or trauma in childhood. This reduces a brain…
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Continue reading →: Learning Vulnerability, The Antidote to Shame
“Vulnerability is an accurate measure of Courage.” Shame is an unspoken epidemic, the secret behind many forms of broken behavior. Listen to more on this subject in this video from Brene Brown, “Listening to Shame”.
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Continue reading →: Shame is a Soul Eating Emotion?
Post traumatic shame has been described as “soul-death,” “soulmurder,” loss of ego identity, and a sense of self as “empty.” which also seems to be close to the “hole in the soul” often talked about by recovering people in recovery groups. Is addiction brutalizing and traumatically shaming, this may be a…
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Continue reading →: Taking Directions From A Madman
“…on a good day my illness talks away to me and I don’t listen, one a bad day, I listen, one a very bad day, I talk back.” A saying often heard in AA meetings in the UK. This little saying as kept me sober so many times. Sober…
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Continue reading →: I know It All but I am Not Good Enough
When I was in early recovery I have major problems around telephoning my sponsor when I needed his help. I would leave it as long as possible before calling him. I would be such emotional distress before I finally picked up the courage to phone him. Why? I kidded myself…
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Continue reading →: Out of the Asylum Years!
The Piano has not been drinking… An interview here with one of my music idols Tom Waits, about his alcoholism, his fear that the muse was the drink and his relief it wasn’t and also his subsequent recovery via AA. Alcohol it seems from this interview and from my…
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catastrophic thinking, change via recovery, emotion dysregulation, emotional differentiation, emotional distress, Emotional Processing Deficits, feeling less than, feeling not good enough, hole in the soul, negative self schema, Recovery, resentments, shame, shame and addiction
There is a map of Emotional Responding Tattooed on my Heart.
Continue reading →: There is a map of Emotional Responding Tattooed on my Heart.When I was doing my step four inventory as part of my 12 step programme of recovery I did it pretty much as suggested in the Big Book. My sponsor at the time asked me to do an additional part that is not explicitly mentioned in the Big Book. He…
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